December 3, 2013 11:50 am
It’s a wonderful time of year.
A time when we begin to feel we have yet one more chance for a “do over”. A chance to reset the clock and get it right. To get back in balance – to simplify – to capitalize on what we’ve learned. It is a time of hope – when we are sure that this new year will be the time when we finally put our lives on a sure-course to the significance we so deeply desire.
It’s these kinds of hopes and dreams that fuel the passion we need to pursue the call God has placed on our lives. I think It is a beautiful part of what God has given us to refresh our energy and reflect on what needs to be done. He allows this “space of grace” so we can give ourselves permission to make fearless change. It’s His way of giving us a fresh start – even in the midst of things that are already in motion and underway.
Where do you need a new beginning?
Why not step into God’s “space of grace” …allow his unmerited favor to wash over you. To allow you the freedom to let go and let God help you reset…restructure…and reprioritize!
Perhaps one simple prayer will be enough?
Could it be as simple as this one request?
Your will – not mine, Lord.
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November 26, 2013 10:00 am
If you have been following me for awhile – you know I am doing a 1 year read through the Bible…but truth be told, I’m now in year 3! ?!
I am happy to report that it’s not for lack of diligence or persistence – but a conscious desire to move slowly. To meditate on what I read and spend time each morning journaling with the Lord. I don’t want to simply check off the day’s assignment but allow God to help me hear and understand what He has to say.
Right now – I’m in 2 Kings. I don’t know about you – but all those kings and nations – the battles and the bloodshed – can make my head spin after awhile. In the midst of it all, I am constantly asking the Holy Spirit to point out the Scripture he wants me to take note of – the message he has placed in His Word just for me!
But today, I found nothing. Not until I began to journal.
By putting pen to paper, God began to speak. He showed me how kings and nations were constantly falling into the same old pattern:
The people rejoicing.
Idols destroyed and removed.
Pagan gods and rituals being raised back up again.
The people rejoicing.
Over and over the cycle repeats!
Is there nothing new under the sun?
Still today, we see so many people putting their hope and trust in everything but a personal relationship with the one true God:
-Their government (and all it attempts to supply)
-Their own power, position and money
-Even the support of the people they love and care about!
-And could it be – even their Church?
Then…as only God can do…He stopped the lesson and poured hope into my soul. He brought to mind one simple Scripture – Proverbs 3: 5-6.
“Trust in The Lord with all your heart
and lean not on your own understanding.
In all your ways acknowledge Him
and He will make your paths straight.”
I know this scripture but it has been a while since I have thought about it.
What a wonderful reminder for me to walk by faith – not to be discouraged by what I can see – to listen intently with my heart – and TRUST THE ONE WHO IS TRUSTWORTHY!!!
As we approach the holiday season and the start of a new year – I am thanking God for this sweet reminder. I am going to be meditating on this Scripture in Proverbs and really allow God to continue to speak into my life – and my circumstances – through this particular verse.
I am not yet sure what all it means. I am not sure that I fully comprehend all He has to say. But rather than rush into all the plans for 2014 – rathe than take matters into my own hands – I am going to be listening a lot more! I know that if I will spend time with him and be in His Word – He is always speaking, guiding and directing. The question is, “Am I listening?” And if I am listening…am I willing to hear?
How about you???
Are you listening?
Do you hear what God is saying to you right now?
Post a comment and share what what you are hearing!
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November 13, 2013 12:11 am
Life is a journey.
Mountain tops and valleys – connected by a twisting road that can sometimes feel like an obstacle course.
And yes – the obstacles will come – often at the most inopportune time.
But ready or not – there you are standing toe-to-toe with your obstacles feeling overwhelmed… frightened…and seeing no way around this boulder in your way.
Motion and momentum stops.
Your sense of possibility is lost.
I have. And honestly – I dread being in that place.
In fact, I must confess – I am there right now.
No, I take that back…I WAS there.
It ended yesterday.
It began in my prayer time. I laid my obstacle before The Lord, and looked heavenward saying, “Lord I can’t do this. I’m so scared.”
And you know what He said?
Step back away from your problem. You are too close to the obstacle to see the opportunity I have laid before you.
Yes. there is opportunity behind every obstacle!
There are amazing possibilities if you will just step back – take a breath – and remember that overcoming obstacles is always the path to growth, change and opportunity.
As I pondered this truth, I began to regain my creativity and my “glass is half full” outlook on life!
And even though I have yet to figure out what needs to be done, I no longer see the limitations of my obstacle but the possibilities of my opportunity.
So, what obstacles are you facing?
I ask because I know this blog post is not just for me today.
I send it praying it will feed your soul as you come to believe that obstacles = opportunity!
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October 30, 2013 11:38 am
Who am I?
That is one of the most asked – but least answered questions on the planet.
In fact, statistics tell us that 97% of people struggle with this question their entire lives – yet never come up with an answer that satisfies their soul.
Changing those statistics and helping people embrace their God-given identity is at the heart of what we do. It is a foundational piece of our process as we help people discover the purpose God has designed and created them to live.
Yet, we often find the question goes much deeper. The real question is not “who am I” but “who am I that God would want to use me?”
This is where identity becomes a struggle of reconciling what the world has to say – versus what God would have you know. It is that inner turmoil of trying to sort out who you are rather than who you wish you could be. It’s that never ending game of comparison – trying to measure up - wanting to finally feel “good enough”.
As I was reading Paul’s prayer in 1 Timothy 1: 12-17, I realized that even the greatest apostles who ever lived had the same kind of thoughts. He knew he was among the “worst of sinners”, yet “God considered him faithful and appointed him to his service”. Paul knew that God poured out his mercy – calling him into his work of carrying the gospel to the Gentiles – not so Paul would be glorified, but that a watching world would see the love, grace and long-suffering patience of the God he served! God was pleased to use Paul as an example to those so would believe and receive eternal life.
As I read this prayer in 1 Timothy – I thought of my own story, and I have read it every day since God shined the light on these verses of Scripture. If only each and every one us – sinners saved by grace – could believe this life altering truth!
As Priscilla Shier shares in her study on Gideon:
God not only has the desire, but the patience and the power
to save you
to change you
to use you
to walk with you
Think not about what you used to do or who you wish you could be. But look at all that God is doing in you, and remember you are a beautiful work in progress.
Focus on how far you have come.
Praise Him for how you have been transformed.
Never doubt that he wants to use you!!!
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October 22, 2013 12:45 am
One of our Licensed Facilitators forwarded an email to us today saying, “You’ve got to read this!!!” As Tom and I poured over the words quoted below – we knew it was exactly what happens when people seek God through the process outlined in our workbook, “Identity and Destiny – 7 steps to a Purpose-filled Life”.
Thousands around the world have purchased our book seeking answers to the questions – Who am I? - Why am I here? and What Does God want me to do with what I’ve been given?
Through their journey of life purpose discovery, they not only answer those questions with profound clarity and certainty - they also spend time getting to know their Creator in a deeper and more personal way.
4 critical truths emerge:
You are OK just the way God made you – now run with it!!!
No more comparisons, pretending or imitating necessary.
There is purpose in your pain and hope in the hard places.
God wants to use you – not in spite of your pain – but because of it!
Check out the workbook at http://identityanddestiny.com/home/buy-the-book/
Now…keep reading and you will see why we knew it was important to share this message in today’s blog post:
As they wrestled together, the angel of the Lord asked Jacob, “What is your name?” He answered, “Jacob.” Then the angel said, “Your name will no longer be Jacob, which means deceiver, but Israel, which means ‘a prince with God’, because you have struggled…and have overcome” (See Ge 32:27-28). God forced Jacob to look at his true identity. He wrestled him into a revelation of who he was—not who others said he was. His parents gave him his name and others called him by it, so he believed that’s who he’d always be. But God had a different plan for him.
Hear this: you are not who others say you are. Why should they name you? Determine who you are before God. Let Him determine the level of your success. Why should others be allowed to live at their highest potential but not you?
You are more than your past, more than your education or résumé, more than the color of your skin, more than your bank account, and more than your circumstances. Tell those who talk down to you and devalue you, “You’re confusing me with somebody else. God says I am a prince. And if I’m a prince, then I have the right to be treated like one!”
You ask, “But is that true?” Yes, the Bible says that when you walk with God you are part of a royal priesthood (1Pe 2:9). You are an overcomer (1Jn 2:13-14). You are the head and not the tail, above and not beneath (Dt 28:13-14). So dry your tears, lift your head, square your shoulders and begin walking in your God-given identity. (from Pastor J Franklin)Share on Facebook
October 16, 2013 2:04 pm
Do you have a habit of quitting?
Perhaps you don’t call it that. . . you might just be thinking I’ll do it later. But – truth be told – quitting can look a lot like procrastination.
Putting off something that conveniently never makes it back on your calendar is a version of quitting.
And over the years we have learned, running a business requires you to keep going – not putting off what must be done.
Hebrews 12:1 says:
Therefore, since we are surrounded by so great a cloud of witnesses, let us also lay aside every weight, and sin which clings so closely, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us.
Tom and I recently returned home from a conference and those type of events can leave us feeling like we’ve run a marathon for 4 days straight. Yet, when we get home, there is much to be done. In addition to all the follow-up, we have mountains of email and phone calls to make. There is a long list of pending projects still waiting – not to mention a frig that is bare and all the household “stuff” to be done!?!
It is times like this that I ponder Hebrews 12:1 — asking the Lord to provide the strength – and the grace – to lay aside all that would slow me down so I can keep running the race He has set before me!
Thankfully, He gently reminds me that I can do all things through His strength – not my own. He assures me that there are many on earth – and in heaven – who are praying on my behalf. And He lets me know I am able to do this work because He has already helped me develop the habit of doing what is needed – regardless of how I feel.
In Steven Pressfield’s book the “War of Art”, he encourages the reader to think like a professional, not an amateur. He tells us that a professional does not think of excuses – they simply bear down and do what it takes to get the job done. Failure is not an option.
So, if you find yourself procrastinating – if you are making all the usual excuses – if you are ready to throw up your hands and quit – DON’T!!!
Be strengthened by this message. Receive it as a much needed word of encouragement – take a step back – and DECIDE on this day that you will keep going.
That is what professionals do!
And that is what God is calling us to be – and do – for Him.
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October 8, 2013 9:00 am
Tom and I love being parents – but now that we are grandparents to 5 little girls and 1 little guy…we can’t believe how much we are enjoying this new season of life!
Every summer we rent a big old house on the beach with room for everybody.
This way we get a full week with the whole family…and the children know that Poppy and G are gonna love on them…spoil them…sneak a little candy…and beg for a later bed time.
We treasure their funny little words…the smiles on their messy faces…and hugs around the neck that make our hearts melt!!!
But there is something even more special going on – it is a week of bringing everyone together from 3 states and begin the melding of the generations of our blended family. It is a time when the kids roll into the kitchen in the morning and see Poppy already pouring over the Word before the day starts. They look forward to the big circle of prayer as we gather holding hands to pray before our meals…and they know conversations that include love for The Lord are comfortable, natural and come second nature to all who have gathered.
Now – what you might now know – this is actually the picture of a miracle. Just 13 years ago…none of the 14 who gathered this past summer knew Jesus as Lord and Savior. We each have our own story…but it is the sweetest reminder of the promise God gave me on the day I was saved. He gave me the word from Joel – promising that He would restore the years that had been lost. And he has not only done that…he has healed the land of hurt, unforgiveness, struggle and pain.
Four generations – from 89 to one that was still in the oven when we met this past June. It is a precious memory that I carry in my heart. It is the picture of a family redeemed and restored. It is modern-day proof that God is still honoring the prayer of King Solomon as he dedicated the Temple to The Lord saying, “May God, our very own God, continue to be with us – just as he was with our ancestors. May her never give up – may he never walk out on us.”
So, whenever I get shaky in my faith – or waiver in my certainty of who God really is – all I have to do is remember this picture that is forever imprinted on my heart. Then I know, without a doubt, that my God is FOREVER a promise keeper!!!
How about you?
Have a memory that gives you this kind of assurance?
Etch it on your heart.
Take a moment now and search for that memory…or savor the one that’s coming to mind.
Remember the miracles of God in your life…how far you have come….and give thanks!!!
But, if this is bringing pain and uncertainty. Remember – no matter where things are at the moment – you can rest in the assurance that God loves you – he loves your loved ones – and you can trust Him to continue the good work he has begun.
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September 26, 2013 11:05 am
When it comes to being successful – 3 things are required: Skill – Will – and Talent!
Talent is given
Skill is learned.
Will is a choice.
In our work as coaches, we have the opportunity to travel all over the country meeting other Christian coaches, counselors and entrepreneurs. They love what they do and know they are making a difference. But deep down, they know there is something more they are called to do.
They have the developed and honed their skills and are really good at what they do! And they don’t stop there – they continue to taking classes, attending conferences and studying to add to their skills.
They have discovered their gifts and talents, and they know this is the Lord’s way of helping them be especially good at what they do AND how they do it!
Yet, doing all this good work – they remain the best kept secret in the marketplace. They know there are many more people they could…and should…be helping. Word of mouth referrals are working, but it’s not enough to fill their client funnel and build a business that makes an even bigger impact in the marketplace!
Do they have the talent to be good at the sales and marketing required to do that? You bet!!!
Do they have the skills to be good at what it takes to build a business? Often they do, but if not, those are skills that can be rather easily learned.
The question remains, “Are they willing?”
The answer is often “NO”.
Knowing what action are required of us means little without the will to do those actions!
Willing says , I will do what I know to do – while working to fill the “skill gaps” where I know I need the help.
Willing says, I will take the skills and talent I already have and do everything I can with what I have.
Willing says, I see the vision, I hear the call, I will do whatever it takes. You can count on me to do your work Lord – IN FULL MEASURE!
God will often take those of us with less skills and talent and do great things – if only we are willing.
So. it all boils down to one simple question, “Are you willing?”
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September 18, 2013 12:49 pm
Jesus said, “go and make disciples”. He gave us the Holy Spirit, but He also commanded that we establish earthly counsel and guidance. He did not want His people to “go it alone”.
In keeping with this command, we believe God is calling Christian coaches to be an important part of discipleship in today’s church.
As Christian coaches we have the privilege of combining the wisdom, guidance and counsel of a coach – while also bringing spiritual growth, prayer and the power of the Word into our work with clients. Wow – no wonder you will often hear us say, ” Our work is not just a job – it’s our calling!!!”
It’s like the work of Identity and Destiny.
Our growing, worldwide community of licensed facilitators lead their clients through a 3-phase process of life purpose discovery that is more than interesting…not just exciting…but truly transformational!
In the words of our client Carolyn:
“I owned a business for seven years but it no longer felt “right”. I wasn’t sure what was out of alignment or what to do next. Thanks to your program I was able to identify my core values and clarify why I was losing interest in my work. Even more important, I was able to articulate my identity and my calling. I now have a compass for whatever business I choose to start next.
Identity and Destiny has helped me become more in tune with myself as well as my relationship with God. You gave me new tools and methods for strengthening that relationship which is going far beyond the time spent working the program. Please know how thankful I am for the opportunity to go through the Identity & Destiny program.”
Using Identity and Destiny – 7 Steps to a Purpose-filled Life – here is how the process unfolds:
First comes a deep and exciting journey of self-discovery. Allowing you to embrace the truth that you are chosen, beautifully created and specifically designed for the plans God has for your life.
Next comes a fearless look at the things that might be holding you back – that could stand in the way of living the wonderful purpose God has for your life.
Finally comes the blessing of taking all you have learned to God and asking Him what it means. It is about powerful spiritual disciplines that help you learn to clearly hear God’s voice – trust what you are hearing – and rest in the truth that you are fearfully and wonderfully made! It’s about knowing that God has something very specific for you – and it matters for all eternity. And so do you!!!
We are blessed beyond measure to know that…
Thousands of people have been blessed by this program.
Thousands have been released into the purpose God has for their lives.
Want to learn more about discovering your God-given purpose?
Want to learn more about becoming an Identity and Destiny Licensed Facilitator?
Send us a quick email and let’s schedule a time to talk by phone.
No obligation. We just want to get to know you – learn how we can come along side you – and introduce you to the life changing discipleship of Christian coaching!
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September 13, 2013 5:19 pm
7000 Christian Coaches and Counselors – all in one place!!!
All Christ followers who have come to learn, grow and expand their impact in the marketplace.
Can’t imagine anything better.
It’s the World Conference of the American Association of Christian Counselors and the International Christian Coaching Association.
We have a booth in the exhibit hall – ready to make connections and answer the big question, “so, what do you do?”
Stop! Think about that question.
What’s your answer?
Now – jot it down – clearly and succinctly.
If you are stumbling around trying to find the right words…
If you find yourself going on and on and never getting to the point…
You’re not alone!
In fact – before the exhibit hall even opened – I ran into a fellow exhibitor and asked her the big question.
She grinned and said, I know I need to be ready for that question. Let’s just practice right now.
She struggled…she giggled…then said – how bout you?
The good news is I was ready to answer her question.
But the truth is – it wasn’t always that way.
It is a learned skill!
It is a process and a journey.
But – when clarity comes and you can simplify your answer – amazing things begin to happen for you and your business.
Hi I’m Pam Wolf
My husband Tom and I work with Christian Coaches, Counselors and Entrepreneurs.
We do 3 things:
# 1 – we help people answer the questions… who am I? – why am I here? – and what does God want me to do with my life?
# 2 – we license and certify them in the use of our signature program, Identity and Destiny – 7 Steps to a Purpose-filled Life
#3 – we equip them with the skills needed to build their business – and get paying clients to make a living doing what they are called to do.
Without missing a beat – she looked me straight in the eyes and said, ” oh my gosh, I need to come by your booth. We need to talk!”
Now that is when you know you’ve got it right.
And by “right” – I don’t mean they will always say yes – in fact, they may very well say what you do is of no interest at all.
You’ve connected with someone who fits your “perfect client’ profile – and they know they have met someone they want to know more about.
That is the purpose of a having a clear answer and a powerful introduction!
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